Hatiku Percaya

Appreciate every single thing in your life

Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the thing they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too. We don't even know when is our time to be call and return to God. But while we still can breathy in the land of the world, we should be as good as we can to God.

A week ago, I've received very shocking news. I've received few missed calls from my ex-colleagues and I was curious why she suddenly call me - few times. So then I rang her back and ask is there anything. The moment I heard what she said on the phone, I totally blur. I don't know what to say. I am in shocked! I just couldn't believe I am losing a friend on that day. A friend for 3 years friendship.

We've been worked together a year before. She's a nice person and she did help much in term of works. We began close to each other, even went for holiday together, have our meals together, shop together, have fun together and can say that 3 years we had a great time together. She's a good friend, you know why? Because she always be nice in front of me, thou I know how she treat me last time. And I never put my hatred toward her. Never thought she will leave us that early.

It happened when she and the other staffs of the Company on their way to estate (I don't particular know what the purpose going to estate on that day). They involved in self accident after started half hour journey from town. What I heard from other friends, the car was driven by ex-supervisor, was lost control after he failed to overtake another car in front. And the time he wanted to back off to the original lane, there the car was spin 10 times. The only unhurt was my ex-supervisor (5 of them). This Ms Kitty (because she loves hello kitty soooo much) still conscious on the scene but unconscious on her way to hospital. She pronounced dead by the doctor after few times given CPR. Doctor failed to save her as she had internal injuries. 

That was the most sad moment after I heard she's gone. Why God must take her while she exciting preparing her big day in few months coming. I can imagine how sad and broken heart her fiance to lost her. Once again I realize how fragile is our life and soul to be taken by God, anytime. That make me ponder in a minute, appreciate everything you see and have in the present. Because God can take what's belong to you anytime, any where.

Throwback the moment I lost my beloved dad, that was the most tragic moment I had. He gone without saying a goodbye, not even a word. You so bad dad.. leaving me alone without you beside me. From that moment, I began realize, there is nothing you can do about death. What you can do is, spend more time with everyone, appreciate everything that God given. I began realize, that I should be more strong in conducting my life. I began to love everyone. To love the loves one. Now then I once again, begin, to love my precious son. We cannot buy our happiness with money because that was what God's gift to us. We cannot seek our happiness any where at the road side. Life just once. If you don't change, don't regret by the end of the day. 

* Once you learn how to be happy, you won't tolerate being around people who make you feel anything less. Life asked death, "WHY DO PEOPLE LOVE ME BUT HATE YOU?" death responded, "BECAUSE YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL LIE AND I AM A PAINFUL TRUTH." Every deceased friend is a magnet drawing us into another world. While I thought that I was learning how to live, I have been learning how to die. Death doesn't care about your list of accomplishments or your future plans, so cherish those around you and enjoy, we only live once.*

Now I am thinking, why should I headache my head with people who never think about me. Never appreciate me, never value me as how I valued them. I deserve to be happy, instead. I wouldn't care much about those who doesn't love me, after this. We created by God to appreciate and love ourselves before we share our kind heart to others. I am so much disappointed until I couldn't tears. I've been humiliated, mocked once again, by someone that I love the most. But for me, God knows everything, God knew my heart. 

God bless to everyone. Amen.

My precious Carl #2

Break time for me...

By the time I blogging, my precious son is sleeping so that's why I have time and an idea to blog. This is my 2nd batch of my stories about being a MOTHER. I don't really have free time to type and blog, because I need concentrate on what I have to blog. With Carl awaken it is really possible to free myself blogging like now. Even he is in sleeping mode, sometimes he could hear even my fingers typing sound on computer keyboard. Whenever I start doing my own thing such as watch my favorite Kdrama or blog (as it), it's like he couldn't let me have my personal time. So he make sure will make me distracted. Normally I will on his favorite cartoon (yes at the age of 2 months plus, he have his own interest) or play him Kpop songs. He will enjoy watching it but just for awhile. Carl a type that faster get bored. This is the problem why I hardly have time to blog. 

Being a mother isn't as easy as I thought from began. It is seriously troublesome and tired! But honestly I say I am enjoying the moment being a mother. I doesn't want miss even a second without my child, Carl. It feel like I am losing so much time without spend my time with him. I know the duties being a mother needs me to work up my ass out where I need to change his diapers, feed him, give him shower (thou most of the time it is my mom's duty), put him to sleep (he must breast feed on me, otherwise he probably refused to sleep), wash his feeding bottles, cuddle him if he 'meroyan' and etc. Tired babe! 

This 2 months really a tough time for me. Sleepless and restless sound normal for me now. By the time I blogging already past midnight, where everyone having their dreamland on their comfy bed. No doubt I really miss my 'before being a mother' where I can do a lot of things. I can freely spend my time with my buddies, enjoy working moment, travel, outing for the whole day. But now then I have to limit my time for my 'play time' activities but letting Carl to have my time more for him. He is so adorable to dish out. LOL! I miss my Carl everyday, every moment, every second. Even when we sleep side by side, I can still miss him. Miss to see his pure face. Truly that I am crazy being a mother now. Nothing that can separate me from my boy. I swear who ever or in planning to do something bad or to 'snatch' him from me, I will cut off that person ever. He is my precious, my diamond, my wing, my EVERYTHING. *LOL..I sound overreact..who care* 

Soon, Carl will be 3 months old. Time fly so fast yet I still wanna see him in 'small size'. In another year, I gonna miss to cuddle him, hear his baby babbling and the moment he is still baby. Now he is in learning himself to facing down. My boy is growing up. That so fast. This little boy gonna be a naughty boy after all. I can predict it earlier. One thing funny about Carl, that he doesn't like to ride. When ever I brought him out, he looks like he afraid to be inside car. And when he is about to sleep, we must go on driving all the way to make him sleep soundly. He'll start to cry if the car stop even for awhile. Funny Carl. 

So far, I love being a mother. But at the same time, I am worry being a mother to my little boy. I just worry and conscious that being a mother not as easy as I thought. I always worry if my boy feel alright all the time, cool enough or is he too hot when he is sweating, worry if he doesn't poo for 2 days. Everything about Carl making me worry. May be that's why every mother out there very protected their children. I hope my Carl wont give me so much trouble in the future. I do hope he growing as a good person, a valuable person, smart, intelligent, creative, brilliant, all I can say, good in everything that he should know to survive. So then I wont worry for the rest of my life for being a mother to him. I want he be a person who can be brave and tough when ever he is in difficulty. 

Ok guys, gonna continue my next chapter about My precious Carl~

xoxo  

My precious prince

It's been long time...

I finally come back after 2 months. I don't have time to blog but a lot of time to sit in front my lappy. LOL. 

It's been 2 months after gave birth to my precious child. Wow! Fuhh! I have thousand words to say here but my fingers seems giving me limit to blogging. So I just typing some here while my baby is sleeping. 

I gave birth to a baby boy. Yes, a prince. He is so cute and adorable. Me and hubby named him Carldiver. Well, its his first name and let keep the other 2 names. Carl born on August, 30th of 2013. Now Carl is 2 months old. Yes quite big size for my size of body. I couldn't believe I gave birth to such cute handsome boy. I was grateful with healthy and adorable son. 

Story about experienced the moment giving birth : 

I admitted to hospital on August, 29th at 17:00pm. That was my first time admitted in the hospital. Yes never once since after I born. And yes that also one of my experience. I choose private hospital because I trust on their service. Not because I 'sombong' because refused to give birth at General Hospital but I know I can freely bring my family to stay with me for the whole time I'm there. I had a good service by the doctors and the nurses whom so kind and patience with 'karenah' their patients. 

My contraction begin every half and hour to 5 minute until the time to give birth. The pains I've gone through was the great moment. That is how our mom bare the pains while giving birth to us. I was too afraid and keep asking myself if I can give birth my child through normal birth. And I'm not pretty sure if I can push hardly. My 'ketumban' pecah after midnight and there goes the most painful part started. I choose to get painkiller injection as I cannot tahan the pain but Eng Eng was right, the effect was nothing compare to the pain. But thankful to God I can stand the contraction in short while. my civic opened 8cm then only I push out to labor room. Once again, I was grateful that my hubby was around with me. On 3.49am with weight of 3.3kg, my little Carldiver born to the world. What such wonderful experienced I had. 

To be continue ...

Nearly

It nearly the time.. I can't wait to see my little one. I hope I can go through all the pains. *finger cross* God bless me. My contraction happened in 2 nights and it's really painful. Well, this is because I am to brave and tough til I can tahan not to go to hospital early. Kalo other pregnant women lain, I guess first time contraction sudah hantar diri to hospital. Not because I doesn't feel scare or worry but I just don't like to stay longer in the hospital. What I want is go there and straight away give birth so I don't need to spend more extra time in the hospital. Stay in hospital never feel comfortable. 

It's gonna be my first experience giving birth to a newborn. And that gonna be my the most sweet memories. Get myself pregnant at the age of 30+ and going through a lot of beautiful moments. Now I wonder how is my baby boy look like. *excited!* 

Mom keep pushing me to go to hospital as soon as possible but I still can have time to blogging here! Lol!! Should I go now or later? Hurm.. Gonna go there later. Alright mommy, I'll stop blogging now then. 

Okay guys, gonna update my blog again after then. 

xoxo 

What's the best way to get rich, especially if you are poor now?

There are so many ways to get rich. Some ways are perceived as easier than the others. But if you want to have a high probability of success. I believe there are a few methods that are proven to be more likely to make your dreams come true.

First, let's start with the easier one : marry rich or inherit wealth. The problem is that only 5% of the population is rich. It is probably less than 5% in some places. If you are born in a wealthy family, the rest may admire the lucky you. This leave the other 95% compete among themselves to get a wealthy spouse, if they depend solely on this "easier" way to get into the 5%.

Believe it or not, there are courses in China that train young girls on how to attract and get married to the rich man. After all, there are many new billionaires in China nowadays that a girl has higher chance to marry a wealthy man, provided that she is equipped with the necessary quality. What else is a better way to acquire these valuable skills other than taking up a course or workshop? A consultancy firm in the upscale Jianwai Soho complex in Beijing is offering this type of special training. A standard 10-hour package costs 2,000 yuan (RM925), reports The Global Times. 

Since most of us are not attractive female, now, let's get more serious to examine the other alternatives :

#1 - Build a massive portfolio of stocks

Warren Buffett did it. Many others do too, by accumulating shares of some great profit-making companies while the price is fair and undervalued. Stock investment is suitable for people with great analytical mind. Thorough  research can be done at the comfort of your home by studying the past annual reports since the information of a public listed company is easily accessible. In Bursa Malaysia alone, there are around 1000 counters to choose from. The key is to find really good company that can make good use of your money invested with them. If the management team can produce better return than what you are making on your own, it is best to have your money managed by them. 

Certainly, there are a handful of companies that produce magnificent financial result consistently for many years. Find those companies and buy their share when it is at a discounted price. Accumulate enough of it through years of savings. You can even borrow money to invest when you are very confident about what you are doing. Then, you should be able to accumulate enough wealth just repeating this strategy.

#2 - Join a start-up and get stock

Early employees in Apple, Google and Microsoft became millionaires on this basis. Is there such companies in Malaysia? For us, there are not many great startups that eventually get listed and make their employees millionaires. 

But if you have the chance to study in some top universities like the MIT (Massachusetts Institute of Technology) or Stanford University in Silicon Valley, there is a great chance that one of your school mates will be starting some exciting high tech business there. MIT alumni founded or co-founded many notable companies, such as Intel. McDonnell Douglas, Texas Instruments, 3Com, Qualcomm, Bose and Dropbox. Coupled with the perfect environment to get seed funding, angel investors' support and the venture capitalists who are actively looking for new startup to pump in their money, it is possible that you might end up as the first batch employee in some significant startups.

For example, the number 20 employee of Google, Marissa Mayer joined Google as a software engineer. Now she is the CEO of Yahoo. When Google was publicly listed at Nasdaq, her fraction of company shares had turned into millions of dollar, making her rich almost overnight.

Getting rich through this route looks pretty fun but as many has known, not everyone has the luck that the perfect chance just comes at the right time.

#3 - Exploit your skill and become a celebrity

This is how sports stars, authors and entertainers become rich: You have to have some special skills. Talents is a must-have trait for this route to riches.

In order to create tremendous wealth through this method, you not only need to have the specific talent, you also got to be able to market yourself really well. When I refer to talent, you got to be in the top 1%. It is just too hard to make it. Even if you are in the top 5% talented people, it might not be "talented" enough.

In this case, I would love to take myself as an example. If you got the chance to see me sing and play the piano. But why didn't I end up being a full time artist, or become a superstar? Frankly, I am not the top 1%. I am not good at marketing myself ruthlessly. Perhaps I didn't try hard enough. And finally my priority changed after I got married.

By now, I think you've got what I mean. To be a celebrity who earns very high rewards, you simply got to be the best in your group who perform that special skill (acting, talking, singing, running, playing badminton etc). That level of success requires a very high level of talent (that not everyone is born with), luck, hard works, and even people skills. 

However, if you have any sort of talent that you can make use of, by all means go for your dreams! It is only worth living when you are chasing over your dream. 

#4 - Buying, developing, managing and selling property

Property invest gives you much leverage based on the very simple logic: land is limited, but human population keeps increasing. In the long term this remains a proven way to accumulate wealth for centuries.

The challenge is that most properties, especially the good ones require relas stively higher capital to acquire. One wrong decision might take years to recoup the losses. But if you learn the trade, it is quite safe to accumulate wealth this way. Since property hunting requires you to get out of your comfortable home and actively look for good bargain, it is very suitable for those who are extrovert. In fact, if you don't feel shy of negotiating with seller, buyer, real estate agents, lawyers, even contractors, you really have the upper hand to find more good deals, or even transform a seemingly bad deal into a good one. 

You can see the most of the local tycoons are normally involved in property development. Even if you find a tycoon who is not a property developer, he or she normally has a massive holding of properties or lands.

This strategy is so simple but yet so powerful. It will never go wrong if you are accumulating income-producing properties at good locations. In the long term, properties price will just go on way, which is "UP".

#5 - Start your own business

I would say this is the most effective and proven way to become rich. There are people getting rich in every niche and industry. If you can find a new approach to a specific need and build a profitable business that addresses that need then you'll be able to create real value that customers willingly pay you for it.

It could be a retail business, a saloon, a consultancy or a product dealer. It will probably take years of very hard work to build up the enterprise. But if you can pull it off, the potential rewards are so huge. This is how many of the seriously wealthy people did it. I would say 90% of the rich people get rich through building a successful business.

The best thing about making money through business is that you don't have to be good at everything your business require. You just got to find the right people to perform the work they are best at. Like what is said by the author of Good to Great, Jim Collins "We found, instead, that they first got the right people on the bus, the wrong people off the bus, and the right people in the right seats. And then they figured out where to drive it." It is about building a team of high performers. Then your business will surely take off!

In business, you can also get to choose the industry you are passionate about. You get your freedom right from the start when you are the boss, calling all the shots!

You decide your journey

Explained above are top five best ways I can think of on how to get rich, plus the bonus method about marry your way to riches. Have you ever think of what is the suitable way for you? Whichever way you choose, the important thing is to start early. Make good use of your time now. Make good investment with your money right now. The earlier you start, the better the chance to get there on time because you will still have the luxury to perform course-correction. Start now. Good people deserve to have lots of money because you know how to spend the money on good deeds. 

Counting my day

Blessed Sunday everyone... 

Hot weather on Sunday morning.. may be because I belum shower lagi. :p 

Okie, I will take my shower soon. Let me finish my blogging first yea. My first blog in month of August. Well, have nothing to blog this while or I can say, lazy to blog. 

From this moment, I starting counting my day to my due date. Mau beranak sudah mah.. How I feel? Wow.. I can say its like I baking a cake with a lot of mixture taste. Hurm.. how is that? Feeling nervous, excited, happy. I am going to be a mother, very soon. Cannot wait to see my newborn little boy to the world. Baby, you'll gonna be a good boy ya. Do let mommy feel the smooth of delivery moment yea. Don't give mommy hard time yea. Mommy love you no matter how. 

Flash back from the moment I found out myself preggy. The feeling very weird. Unexpected pregnancy suppose. I never realized that I will get myself pregnant because I don't get pregnant with my first marriage. Thing gone messed up by that time. I never expected my 2 months menses delayed actually became my first pregnancy. I bought pregnant test and the result was positive. Then I still not satisfied with it, me and hubby went to clinic for more clarification. Then there once again the doctor told me I am pregnant. I don't know what should I say and how I felt. But that was really a huge news for me. I felt worry and felt so happy at the same time. Yes who wouldn't feel happy if you can pregnant with someone that you love. 

The first month pregnancy...

I don't feel anything yet. I go to work as usual. Naik turun tangga. 

2nd Month pregnancy...

I started felt the 'morning sickness' but not so serious. I puke but the worse is I fallen sick for the whole month. I cannot go to work and had asthma, flu and cough. Tsk tsk tsk. Serious sickness until I lost weight so drastic. I've quit my job. I totally cannot work or even drive my car to work. 

3rd Month pregnancy...

I started with my monthly check up. I don't feel nervous every time doctor did scan my baby. I saw the progress of the baby. I felt blessed. I couldn't believe I carrying another soul inside my womb. 

4th Month pregnancy...

I don't know about other pregnant mother, but at this 4th month pregnancy, I started felt my baby movement. Too early? Yes that true. I felt the movement. The first movement. 

5th Month pregnancy...

The progresses sama with other pregnant women. I started gained weight. I can see my tummy getting membesar. Happy mode. I don't have to go through 'mengidam' moment. May be because I memang suka makan. 

6th Month pregnancy and present...

Everything is in good condition. My baby growing well. Very active too. I can feel the movement of my baby, everyday. He is superb active. I love my baby so much. 

On my 33 weeks of pregnancy, my appetite start mengila. I started my 'mengidam' mode. Want to eat this and that. That make my baby growing faster. But that's not the problem. I want my baby in good health and cute. I am happy to have my boy to the world. 

May God bless me and my baby. Amen.

xoxo