Behind every successful man is a proud wife and a surprised mother-in-law

A parent-in-law is a person who has a legal affinity with another by being the parent of the other's spouse. Many cultures and legal systems impose duties and responsibilities on persons connected by this relationship. A person is a son-in-law or daughter-in-law to the parents of the spouse, who are in turn also the parents of those sisters-in-law and brothers-in-law (if any) who are siblings of the spouse (as opposed to spouses of siblings). Together the members of this family affinity group are called the in-laws.

Mother and Mother-In-Law are two different character of mother hood meaning. One is your own mother who gave birth to you and another one is whom most of 'scary' episode in between of your marriage. I bet a lot of people outside there especially who is being a daughter in law in the in-law's family, afraid of what type of mother in law would they face and live with when they married into the family. But I don't say all of mother in law in this world are fierce. Some of them are too kind and too cheering. 

I know what kind of mother-in-law my mom would be. Yes of cos I know. I saw how she treat her in-law in our family. She doesn't seem like a mad or fierce mother-in-law but being a good one. She doesn't bubbling or controlling her in-law in doing anything in the house. She assumed her in-law no different than her own children. Yes I admit that. But I don't know how would my mother-in-law treat me in the future. That was the scary part and I always thinking about something that might harm me and my children. BUT little by little, I getting to know what kind of person she is. Doesn't mean to mess up about my future mother-in-law in here, but that's the fact.

Some mother-in-law were friends to their in-laws. I always hope my parents-in-law will treat me good as how they love their children. I married to my husband then of cause I wanted to be treat the same as I will be a part of their family too. Children still under their protection forever. Yes that's cannot be change but once their children involved in new life - marriage, some part might change in between the parents and their children. For example, before married, the parents may be in charge or control their children earnings or financial or even their life. Once they married, the parents shouldn't do the same again because the children married to a woman / man that they love and believe to manage and handle their own marriage. 

I have no doubt if my parents-in-law still in charge for my husband life including his financial, daily routine, etc. When I start my little family with a man that I love, I want my man to be understanding my situation as a wife. I want my man consider on how I will handle and manage our family. I as a wife, be together with him until forever for building up our family. I want my children will be proud to have both of their grandparents. I know if I be a bad or too demanding and materialistic daughter-in-law would harm myself in the future. Why would I make myself and my child living in the crash? 

When I get married I want a mother in law that will adore me and one that I'll actually like. Yes, for my next marriage this is what I want in my relationship with my parents in law. Not like the previous marriage, my parents in law wasn't what I expected. What they know is not bothering to have a daughter in law like me who is working. I don't understand them actually. Seriously, I have no idea what my ex ever say to them until they thought that I am a demanding person. My ex have his own problem in managing his $$. I am someone that can be fair enough with everyone. Meaning, if you got a bundle of candies, then another person will get the same thing too. I want everybody be happy without any prejudice among each other. 

I'm not digging out the past. But just for sharing. My ex parents in law never come to have a visit nor to call to know how I am. There were only one purpose when they come, asking for $$. I was thought deeply in my heart, they might thought their son given half of his earning to his mother in law just because their son live with me. For entire of the marriage, my ex never gave even 1 cent for my mother. Never. Yet my mother never complain about that. She know we were trying harder to build our own living expenses that keep on increasing day to day. If there is someone asking me how my mom treat her in laws, I give my mom 99% the most kind mother in law. She never yell or mad or even bubbling to her in laws. She treat her in law much better than her own daughter. Yes that's true. No bullshit. You can try. LMAO! 

Behind every successful man is a proud wife and a surprised mother-in-law. 

xoxo