Other than blogging, people like to express their feeling or telling what they are doing in Facebook or Twitter. So do I. Blog is one of my public diary. While Facebook just for me to share my photos of Noodle (dog), usually, with my friends in my Facebook friend list. But sometimes I do express my feeling too. It is much better than I post something that can harm me in other meaning, post what I have such as cars, where I live, how rich I am - what people doesn't have. I dislike 'showing off' my properties in public. Enough with what I have around me. I am poor person ler. Nothing to show off.
Today we're gonna talk about MY FEELING. Yes, my feeling. Unfairly feeling. I am sensitive over small or big issues nowadays. Pregnant woman full of emotionally. No doubt. In my entire life, my late father taught me how to be fair to everyone. He never let his children being so arrogant or unfairly to each other. But well, my brother was a spoiled brother when back time. Spoiled brother mean, anak manja. Everything he want will be granted by mom. While my needs and desire, I have to ask from dad or I have to struggle to get it by myself, mostly. Yes, I am living in independent. I do things by my own. I handle my stuffs by myself. I can say I live by myself. Being independent since school, I learned a lot of thing about life. A lot.
It doesn't make any difference if your spouse doesn't get up on time, has horrible taste in clothes, forgets appointments or to take pills, loses the car keys, or never picks things up. If your parent your spouse, you are actually showing a lack of acceptance and a lack of respect for your spouse.
If you have an immature or irresponsible husband, you may need to say this to yourself often: I am his wife, not his mother.
The first thing you need to do is realize that showing concern and caring for your spouse is normal and expected. It is when you cross that line into the parenting role that normal nurturing stops and parenting begins.
Often when life isn't working out the way we dreamed, we blame forces beyond our control. But just as often, the problem is staring at us in the mirror. I can't stress enough that when we learn to take responsibility for what we do and don't have, we put ourselves on the path to happiness.
Your goal is to see if you can avoid that extreme option. First explore why he behaves this way. I find that when people act out with their money, it's typically because they don't value who they are. Sit down with him and talk to him about his attitude toward money, family's financial situation, and his self-image, all of this I did it many times. I spell out what I need to have happen to keep this marriage alive. But everything seems goes wrong to him and keep saying that I doesn't understand what he is trying to say, on and on. And I am shamed to have someone like him who doesn't put priority on to his own future family. He can says, he still need to take care of his parents feeling. I don't ask him to abandoned his family when they need him but the point is he should be more sensitive and considerate in making decision between me and him. He should take serious in this matter. I am no longer be patience until I have to give birth then I have to be a BEGGAR to ask for his money from his parents!
Do he doesn't feel shame to his future parent in law? Get me to pregnant but doesn't put responsible enough to your woman. What a shame! He care about what his parents might think of us, BUT he doesn't care what will my side think about him on how he treat me. Do open your eyes wisely hubby. I am not asking for something that more than what I should have now. Be fair.
You come on as a guest. You don't get the girl anymore. But that is our lives. You start off as the boyfriend, then you are the lover, then you are the husband, then you are the father. And I came away from that experience, and it was a very difficult experience - I came to understand that you have to practice at being a good son to your parents but inconsiderate to your wife. Waiting for you to come back home is the hardest thing to do. I have to wait for 3 months to see you again. Now then everything change, we are going to have little family by our own. Be more considerate. If I don't get pregnant I still work my ass to get my earns. I rather not to beg you as a beggar to support me. I am not that type of person. But because of YOU I have to stop from working and have to be a beggar for supporting my expenses and our new born baby, many times!
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xoxo
