Parents are precious. Appreciate them when they're still around. Love them no matter how bad they are. Care them as how they raised us until we able to stand by our own foots.
A child who is allowed to be disrespectful to his parents will not have true respect for anyone. I love both of my parents, thou dad gone for many years. Flash back for the past 5 years ago, we're so happy as a family. I am so lucky that I have completed family, have a father, a mother and brother. In year 2005, dad leave us forever and never come back. He passed away without saying good bye. It's totally hard time without he around. I felt I couldn't fly as my side of my wing hurt. But I know that I have to go on with my life. Without him, everything starting wrong. Me, mom and brother couldn't get a long. There always something that not happy to each other. I just couldn't get what they want and they wouldn't understand on what I want.
Now mom found someone else in her life after almost 6 years dad gone. I don't stop her and wouldn't stop her. That's her life and I have no right to judge than giving support to her. She should find her own happiness. BUT, brother aren't happy with it. He thought with existing new family member just will bring disaster. And he have guts to assumed mom as a crazy person. I just couldn't believe on what he had said. What's wrong mom to have partner? Brother being so rash and fierce lately to mom or even to the family. He don't bother on what will happen to us when we in financial problem. We're not allowed to use his money. Mom not allowed to ask for some 'pocket money'. Why?? Isn't she is your MOTHER?? Jesus Christ! How would you said such words to your own mother. What she want is just a bless from her children. If really the man not suitable for her, its still can be discuss among us. Yes I feel awkward but slowly I will try to give a space for myself to see how is the person would be. We're just human being. Not a God. We can only plan but God decide our faith.
Blaming mother is just a negative way of clinging to her still. A mother has, perhaps, the hardest earthly lot; and yet no mother worthy of the name ever gave herself thoroughly for her child who did not feel that, after all, she reaped what she had sown. Don't regret at the end of the day, brother. She's your mother.
xoxo~
